If you've ever felt like someone was attacking you unfairly, accusing you of something you didn't do and generally just making your life hell for some reason you do not understand, this post is for you.
My Uncle, who lives in another state, married a slim, intelligent woman. She's not supermodel gorgeous but she is 5'6", slim and knows how to work what she's got. She's a total sophisticate and is great at convincing men anything she says is the gospel truth.
Here's what's true: she has zero *real* self-confidence.
She puts on a great front but she claims credit for things my mom and I accomplished, tell false tales about how sneaky we are, etc.
In other words, she's blaming us for stuff she does and since the dudes - who don't seem to remember she burned them - are led by their non-thinking head, we get dumped on.
We asked her point blank what her problem was. We asked what we'd done to her. She mumbled something vague about a time 3 years before my Mom ever knew she existed (way before I was born) and then hauled butt to go hide in the house.
At first, I was angry. Then I realized what the problem was and now I feel sorry for her. Funny thing is, that makes her more angry and so she lashes out any way she can.
- Horrible, totally false rumors about us? Check.
- Calling our jobs, pretending to be irate customers demanding we be fired? Check.
- Call our jobs, pretending to be us and saying we quit because we're sick/f you all, "I'm authorizing my relative to pick up my last check" (authorizing herself to pick our check up)? Check.
- Causing petty fights in the family to turn our relatives and friends against us? Check.
She torments us wherever we go. She's married in to our family and uses the family grapevine to stalk us.
The most pathetic thing is that if she'd switch from putting all that effort into "destroying" us toward her career and life, she'd be super successful.
She hates us because she's not successful and feels like she should be because she's "so much better" than us. She doesn't understand how we can still move forward and so she doubles her efforts to tear us down.
Ironically, she's the reason she's not successful.
The point here: our enemies are their own enemies. You and I are just their scapegoats.
If you can remember that, it will be easier to shrug off the feelings of betrayal and hurt. It will be easier to focus and work toward your goals.
Haters don't really hate you. They hate themselves, their self-perceived failure to be what you represent to them.
Have fun, stay safe and God bless,
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