Lifestyle Choices

Mean Girls

If you've been alive long enough, you've definitely experienced the "I've got more/better than you do" attitude from someone.

Perhaps it is because I never went through high school (I went from the first semester of 9th grade to college LOL).

Perhaps it is because I had the responsibilities of an adult long before my peers did. Or maybe it's because our world has dissolved into a bunch of spineless mother truckers in the proverbial hell-bound handbasket.

Whatever it is, I've realized something. We get our feelings hurt when we forget that we don't give a crap about something. And I'll be the first to admit that I used to let myself feel hurt. A lot.

For example, the neighbor who flaunts have huge, flat screen tv's in every room of her house and a gazillion channels. She's bragging about her leather furniture, how she's remodeled her house several times and has two vehicles for herself (instead of how I've got one, Mom has one). Her point is she has more money than I do.

Thing is, I don't WANT that stuff. I would rather have a simple home, pet-friendly furniture, a reliable vehicle and the freedom to travel with my son.

Burt's Pumpkin Farm - Georgia

That woman is trying to make it seem like she's better than me because has more than I do but she's stuck in a set routine to maintain that. Not to mention the fact that she's terrified she'll get robbed.

An ex-boyfriend put me down for not having a husband/partner who is "successful" like him and for being a "poor" single mom. He's got a big truck, is married to a fitness model who just had his baby, etc. etc.

He's also an admitted cheater.

Then there are the "friends" with closet stuff they try to hide with religious perfection and the ones who try to knock you for the size of your rack and booty.

Honey, religion is just soulless, exterior action. Real faith and spirituality isn't just about showing up to church and being involved in everything. It's the state of your heart and how you treat others.

As for my boobs, don't hate me because I'm average. I know you feel like you are just boobs on a stick but heck, if you are going to manipulate people based on your humongous proportions, you've got to expect that's what will happen.

If my boobs are bigger than yours but so is my booty, well, we all have different shapes. Relishing that your booty is not as big as mine or trying to use me as a "fat friend" to make yourself feel better will only hurt you in the long run.

You don't want to hang around someone who always tries to bring you down and it's no different for me. You'll lose one of the best friends you could have ever had.

Real friends don't need to tear each other down to feel better about themselves. Real friends respect each other's differences. Real friends balance each other out naturally because they care.

When I stop to think about it, it's funny.

The key phrase here is "stop to think about it". The next time someone insults you, puts you down or tries to act like they are better than you are for having more stuff, ask yourself these questions:

1. Does this person's opinion really matter to me?
Is this someone you respect? Is this person reliable and a good influence? Is this someone you would like to be around or share values with? 

2. Do I really care about whatever they are talking about?
Is this convo about something that matters to you? Does this have something to do with your life? 

3. Is this in line with my values and dreams?
What is your version of success? What is your version of Golden Rule living? Would this be something you would be proud of and feel comfortable with?

Most of the time, people put you down to try to make themselves feel better about themselves.

Someone who is confident in who they are and how they are living their life has ZERO reason to try to bash you.

Have fun, stay safe, and G-d bless,